When one comes though something traumatic in their life, the world looks different, never again will it have that same look or feel as before the event took place. Death is a traumatic event, Cancer, and other illness, Car Crash, Rape, Breakups, Divorce, Cheating Spouse, these are all changes in life that have an impact on how we view the rest of time. It’s before or after that event. There are good experiences that can change your life as well, dating a new person, engagement, marriage, birth of child, high school/college graduation, anniversary celebration, but still we look at our life as before or after that event.
But what if you can’t get beyond the event, what if it just keep playing over and over in your mind, like a record player (yep just dated myself there) that is stuck in the same groove. Is there a way to ever overcome? Is there someone out there that can help? Do you have to feel that you are just running in a circle for the rest of your life? Or is there a way to bump that record player into playing again?
Marriage seems to be filled with these life changing events. From the beginning of dating, through to the death of spouse you are forever on the move, bending and flexing. But what if that changing event was not something you knew anything about like a death or your spouse cheating and your blindsided by how to react, let alone how to go on from that point.
Do you just brush it off like it never happened, do you dwell on it? Can you get back to the plane of existence before? Do you want to? Are you in a screaming and shouting mood, dark and sulky, happy and go lucky are you wearing a mask of emotions so raw you don’t know if the wound will heal.
I have experienced some awful things in my life, and also some really wonderful things, but each is like a notch in the belt or rung in the ladder of life, it is how I see my life with accomplishments. This last event that I have come though rocked my world as I know it. It has been hard to over come and even harder to trust again, yet day by day it is getting better.
And that is what we have to do as Christians we can’t change the world overnight, nor can we change one person with just one meeting, it takes time to nurture the seed planted. It takes time to feed the spirit, even our God took days to create the world and all that is in it, so why do we feel we have to have it done/completed right now, this very instant. We need to learn patience and we need to practice waiting. For God’s perfect plan is not our plan, (even though we want to run the show sometimes) we need to wait for HIS perfect timing. I have sat back on many occasions when I have planted the seed and then waited, it is so very cool to see the people who God tucks into all the gaps before awaking that person, that way they have a network of support around them, and He knows if they falter, someone in that amazing network will be there to pick them up, show them the ropes, give guidance, support and most of all LOVE.
Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD.
I wait for your salvation, LORD, and I follow your commands.
it is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the LORD.